Bite-sized.

One of the most common shadows in the feminine is the Care Giver – to extend you beyond yourself to soothe the needs of others.

It is one of the earliest programming that has been passed onto us - to be nurturing and caring for others at the cost of one’s own wants and needs, and to always think of others a little bit more than of oneself. This ideal is anchored into the collective through the glorification of archetypes like Maria Magdalena and Mother Theresa.

As a matter of fact, we praise the woman that sacrifices herself for the world.

This idea has been nursed to such an extent that it runs down the entire bloodline of our ancestral lineages. Every sense of individuality comes with a receipt of guilt and shame. Just notice your body’s reaction to doing something selfish today.

We suppress indigestible emotions like anger, bypassing our sacred rage that could burn through this old paradigm because we inherited the guideline:

Don’t be too much! Don’t take up too much space!

In interpersonal relations we stretch ourselves energetically to reach others. We invade their sovereign energy fields through unsolicited advice, managing their emotions before addressing our needs, and continuously wondering if we were ever good enough for them.

There are endless examples how we make ourselves smaller to fit the mould of other’s people’s comfort-level.

The price we pay for being digestible is our self-esteem.

This is a shadow that is in much need of attention and care. It requires the feminine to look into the uncomfortable mirror, just as much as it requires the masculine to investigate how it has perpetuated and benefited of this power imbalance.

The medicine is in the pain. Only you can liberate yourself.

Your broken days have passed. So, for the love of God, make yourself whole again and

Let.them.choke.

Hannah & the Guides

(*Writer’s note: Before you get your knickers in a twist about terms used – this writing purposefully addresses women, but is just as much meant for men or anybody else for that matter. You are not left out - you just perceive it.)